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Teaching your child confidence: What you need to know about confidence and kids (Parenting tips, teenager, girl, boy, parents)

 

When it comes to your kids and their confidence, there are lots of things that can affect them, including you and their environment.  So how to you teach your child confidence?

There are a few important things you should know before you go off trying to tell your kids how to be confident. It isn’t really about telling them how to be confident, but showing them. Here are a few things you need to know:

 

Your Kids Learn From You

First of all, your kids learn a lot from you. If you’re low on confidence, then they could easily begin to feel that way about themselves, too. If you talk down about yourself, hate yourself and your body, walk hunched over with your eyes on the floor, this is all things that kids will pick up on.

 

If you want the very best for your kids, the best thing you can do is work on yourself first. It’ll make such a huge difference!

Using The Right Language Is Imperative Around Kids

Making sure you watch your language around kids is so important, and this doesn’t just refer to swear words. Making sure you give compliments carefully, for example, is crucial. So, instead of saying that a child’s drawing is amazing, give them something specific, such as you love the shade they used to color in the sky or the house.

Instead of commenting on their weight when talking about how they look (even if you mean well), use words such as healthy, happy, and glowing. Making sure you’re complimenting them in a healthy, balanced way that will teach them what is really important is a must.

You might think that telling your kids they are talented and amazing helps them, when really, it could hinder them. More kids need to be praised for effort and on specifics, so that they see that good things come from effort. If you don’t, they’ll think that things should just come naturally to them and give up if they don’t.

 

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You Can Give Your Kids Confidence With Hobbies

Hobbies are a brilliant way to give your kids confidence by exposing them to a wide variety of activities and helping them to learn all about what they really like. You could look into ballet lessons for kids, sports clubs, singing lessons, or something entirely different. Let them try out lots of different things so they can find passions and hobbies that stick with them for a lifetime. Let them explore and learn more about who they are and what they like to do!

 

You Shouldn’t Rescue Your Child

It’s normal to feel like you need to rescue your child, but you shouldn’t. Don’t always give them something to do when they are bored – let them think for themselves. Don’t force a parent/child to invite them to a birthday party. Don’t be that parent. They’ll learn from things like this in the long run and it’ll make them stronger people.

 

Let Them Make Decisions

Let your kids make decisions. Let them choose what they want to wear, and how they want to have their hair. When it comes to discipline, though, such as making their bed or practicing something for school/hobbies, don’t make it optional.

 

That About Wraps It Up!

As you can see, how to teach your kids confidence is more about how you present and demonstrate confidence, more than actually teaching.  Make sure to subscribe to our newsletter so you can get articles just like this sent directly to your inbox!

 

Alicia Trautwein is an autism parenting coach living in Missouri. She is the creator behind The Mom Kind, a website dedicated to parenting neurodiverse families.  She is one of the head creators behind the #WeLoeveMoms campaign and is also featured in the "Amazing Moms" coffee table book by Hogan Hilling & Dr. Elise Ho.  She shares her expertise along with her experience in parenting children, both with and without autism.

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