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There are plenty of single parents who make the situation work. However, most individuals would agree that if you’ve got a partner or spouse, that makes parenting duties easier. You might feel overwhelmed on your own, but if you have someone by your side who can help support you, the process will probably go a lot smoother.

Sometimes, you and your partner or spouse might run into problems if you can’t agree on a particular parenting technique. Maybe you’re reaching the point where you’re fighting about how to raise your kids.

How to Agree Regarding Parenting Techniques

No one in the family will enjoy these situations. The parents and the child are likely to feel stressed if there are no clear-cut parenting guidelines regarding different situations.

Let’s talk about how you and your fellow parent can get on the same page with your child-rearing techniques.

Sometimes, though, you & your partner might run into problems if you can't agree on particular parenting techniques. Here are some tips to resolve those.

Identify Problem Areas

The chances are high that you and your partner or spouse can agree on most child-rearing ideas. A lot of raising a child is self-explanatory.

For instance, parents probably don’t argue about giving the child baby formula or using a seatbelt to secure a youngster who has outgrown their car seat. Seatbelts reduce injuries and deaths by 50%, so you’re not liable to fight about something so fundamental.  

Probably, there are only a few particular areas where you disagree. You should identify them so you can talk about them. Sit down, discuss them rationally, and see if one of you isis willing to change your mind and defer to the other person’s judgment.

Use Research to See Which Is the Better Way

Maybe you’re arguing about whether breastfeeding the child is a good idea. Some parents also can’t agree on whether to spank a child if they misbehave.

Whatever the contention point, it often helps if you try to develop research that establishes whether the experts agree with one of you. There are very few parenting issues that various entities and individuals have not researched. There are thousands of parenting books and articles out there, and the experts have likely weighed in on whatever it is you can’t agree on.

It would be best if you tried only to use reputable resources. Let’s say you find some article online that says you should deal with a particular parenting issue in a certain way. Please pay attention to whether it’s some uneducated social media influencer who wrote it or whether it was a medical doctor with an extensive child psychology background.

Seek Counseling if Necessary

Maybe you’re arguing about how to raise a child so much that it has become your relationship or marriage’s central friction point. If you’re sleeping in separate beds and you’re always mad at each other because you can’t seem to agree, it’s probably time to seek professional help. You don’t want these contention points to break the two of you up.

You might talk to a therapist together who specializes in these sorts of issues. They can help you stop arguing and weigh in on particular contention areas. This way, you have some expert advice you can hopefully both agree to follow.

This counseling can help young parents who are struggling with their first child. Maybe you won’t have any issues if you have other children because you’ve been through this before. You’ll know how to handle the various child-rearing situations that arise.

Sometimes, though, you & your partner might run into problems if you can't agree on particular parenting techniques. Here are some tips to resolve those.
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Present a United Front

One of the reasons it matters so much that you agree on raising a child is that if one of you tells the child something and the other says something completely different, that will confuse them. If that happens, it’s almost like you’re forcing the youngster to choose between their two parents or guardians. That isn’t kind, so you don’t ever want to do it.

When you agree on conducting yourself in each child-rearing situation, you give the child the same answer every time. That way, they might not always like what you have to say, but at least you’re working as a unit. The child will respect that and follow your instructions a lot better if they can see that you agree on whatever the issue is.

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If Necessary, Move on from Each Other

In a few rare instances, you might have a situation where one parent wants to raise the child one way, but the other parent or guardian has an entirely different idea. Maybe one parent insists on making the child do chores at a young age, and the other is against it. Perhaps one parent wants to raise the child according to certain religious doctrines, and the other does not.

If you have tried everything to get on the same page with each other, and you still can’t do it, it could be that you will have to go your separate ways. Remember that you’re raising a human being, and if all they see during their formative years is two parents fighting right in front of them, that will damage their fragile psyche.

If you can’t agree on how to raise a child, that might be the final straw that breaks the two of you up. You can separate or divorce, and either one or you can get custody. You might also share custody; the child can be with one of you one week and the other the following week.

That’s seldom ideal for the child, but you can lay down your household rules, at least in that scenario. The child will understand that there are some things one parent will allow, but the other one will not.

Raising a child is never easy, but you need to come to some understanding if you’re going to move forward, either as a family or separately.  

Alicia Trautwein is an Autism advocate, writer, motivational speaker, and dedicated mom of four. Alicia’s desire to advocate for Autism comes from her own autism diagnosis and that of her three children, niece, and brother. Her life’s mission is to educate on autism acceptance and change the world for future generations of autistic individuals.

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